I’m a girl and I like splitting bills too. While I appreciate a man being chivalrous, I like him to know that I’m dating him because I like him, not because I’m too cheap to pay for myself. There are a lot of girls out there that think “boyfriend” and “visa” are synonyms. We think splitting bills is a way to say “I’m interested in you, not in your credit card”. Perhaps we’re doing it wrong, but it’s the message we’re trying to send. Nevertheless, we’ve not found a better way to send this message .

Oh, and I feel like a leecher. And I don’t like that feeling. There was a really nice guy that I distanced myself from just because he never let me pay for anything. He was great and we enjoyed ourselves, but everytime before going to bed, I replayed the date and I felt guilty. It started being nice, but after a while I grew uncomfortable with him not allowing me to pay for anything. I can’t remember buying him even a coffee. It still makes me feeel bad.

I guess I can see how a man would like to pay if he truly enjoyed himself. A way to show it. But think about it, what does it have to be so different for a woman?

I’m really, really dense and sometimes I do not notice when I’m on a date instead of a friends outing. It may not make much sense to you, but all my childhood I was more interested in comics and sci-fi and mistery and horror movies and such, and my friends used to be boys. So yeah, I used to go to the movies with them or ice-cream or whatever, and when puberty kicked in, well, I did’nt notice so much the difference on hanging out with boys, sometimes I still don’t (and, guys: taking a prospect to a Comic Con is a little confusing for said prospect. Same about sci-fi movies. We’re never sure if you didn’t find anyone else to go with you, you are thrilled about it and want to discuss it or if it’s a date). I splitted the bills with them too, or sometimes I paid (for example, if going there was my idea in the first place). Some of them freaked out and years later, I understand why. Still, I liked hanging out with them and not because they were paying. I cared for them, if not in the way they’d have liked.

I know the last part of the article was a joke (or so I hope). But there are guys that truly expect to get laid just because they pay, and that’s plain wrong. It get worse when you’re offering to pay for yourself, they don’t accept and they still want to get laid. I hope there are some nice guys among you that understand this, but I’ve met the opposite side of the spectre and, well, it’s anything but desirable.

And, seriously, if it’s a first date (or so the title claims, have we started talking about something else and I missed?)… Why expend so damn much in a dinner? It’s a first date! You’re getting to know the other person. A walk in the park or a coffee works wonder and it’s not expensive. Don’t you think that by blowing so much money and then expecting to get laid you’re attracting the kind of women you dislike? Yep, the kind of women that you’d call slut without thinking. Perhaps she isn’t a slut and you have great chemistry, but face it, most of the time that doesn’t happen in a first date (or at least not to me… ummm… ).

TL;DR

1. When a girl offers to split the bill, she’s trying to be nice. But she thinks you’re nice and wants to let that know. If you really want to pay, tell her politely, but don’t be overwhelming. If she insist, ask her why. Either she’s into you, it’s a kind way of let you down or she feels uncomfortable about it.

2. No amount of money will warrant you to get laid. Spend some dollars on a coffee or your whole income in a expensive dinner, but never expect to happen just because of that. The only way you can be *sure* you’ll get laid if you spend some money is if you’re talking to a whore. Do you want to date a whore?

$250 A (one) person
(which would mean 2 people which would equal about 500)

,,,, woah why go there in the first place unless you got money commin out the ass ha!

Why spend about 200 dollars on a girl anyways when your just “expecting to get layed”

If a girl wants sex right then and there you probley want even have to pay for a expensive meal,

and if you pay for that expensive of a meal it shouldnt be for a random girl for random sex when you could probley go find a prostitue and saave huundreds of money haha.

most times if a girls really into you you dont have to pay thhaat much

- (some girls may even argue with you about it, because they would rather go somewhere less expensive[well the people i know] when they really like you, if not there is a possibility [just a small possibility GOSH haha(:] they may be usin you for money haha)

and how the guys are alllll complainin that the girls are usin them as a Atm, well What the Hell, The guys usin the girl for sex, can they not take a dose of there own medican!

and if girls are suuuucha big problem for guys, then why dont they just turn to each other sayin there soooo much better then girls?

-(and no im not gayist(?)[what do you call that] haha anyways i love gay people[i am a straight girl] )

Annnnnnyyyywaaayyyys.
and it seems to me that girls can usualy handle guys,
but yet guys are alllways complainin on how girls are sluts and whores and complicated and this and that and this and that. soo yaaa.

-(i forgot where my train of thought was goin so maybe you will understand that] haha

Anyways. I just wanted to give my opinion in this entertaining debate!
hah
-love
me(:

6) I hope you meant this directly to that person and not to the male sex in general. If so, you’re no hair better than racists.

Also, with all respect, I just noticed while typing, you repeated number 6 twice.

-Gav